I know alot about sex for a Virgin

Okay, I had to have a catchy title, right?

But seriously, this is where I get to talk about sex and how good it is. At least in the context of marriage.

See, in marriage, sex brings the couple closer. The couple literally becomes "one flesh" (think about your basic biology or sex-ed course) and enters the creation act itself. As JP2 says, sex "allows them [the married couple] to recognize each other reciprocally and to call each other by name, [!] as they did the first time" (pg 167). When a married couple has sex, they're reuniting, they're giving themselves to each other just like they did on their wedding night. It's not exciting because of all the crazy moves they have learned over the years (I guess), it's exciting because it IS.

See, this is something I think we college kids forget about sex. It's not just some fun thing we do. It's not even something you do to show a significant other you love them. It's a choice. You choose to freely, totally, faithfully, and fruitfully give yourself to your spouse. There should be no pressure. You should not feel pressured to give away something so special to anybody who promises anything less than eternity.

The sexual act unites a couple and can take them down a certain path. For a married couple, it teaches them more about each other. More about Christ and his church. The man learns more about the woman and vise versa. For an unmarried couple... it's a lie. You say I'm forever yours even though it's not true. You unite yourselves in a way that you're not ready for until marriage. Then when (okay if... but stats show that premarital sex isn't good for relationship stability...) you break up it's even harder.

I have a friend (who will remain anonymous) who has told me that she has been sexually active with her boyfriends at different periods. And you know what I notice? I notice that all of her breakups are hard. Very rough. Harder than they would be if she had remained chaste? I cannot say for sure... but that's what I believe.

Anyway, that's a little about what I know about sex. And with that I can proudly say on the World Wide Web that I'm waiting for marriage. :)

Dear Lord, it's hard living in this culture today and doing your will. Please help me to live out your plan for me. My body is a temple. My body is beautiful. Please do not let me profane it by using the sexual act in the wrong way. Amen

Take Two - We need each other

This is the second time I tried to read the 9th letter of JP2. I think this time I have a better understanding of it. Or at least one part. Maybe I'll be able to re-read over the other in a few minutes and understand it.

Well the title says it all. We need each other. Men and Women need each other. We need each other because we complete each other.

Wow, I've just not been up for reading heavy philosophy recently! Oh well, I think it's not too difficult to see what that tells the average college student like ourselves. You know how we always label certain tasks as "man things" and others as "woman things"? Maybe we need to take a closer look at that. Not just blow it off like society tells us to.

But this unity does mean that men and women need to respect each other. I don't think we have enough of that in society. On the woman's side, I know we have pornography and strip clubs. Let's face it, the men looking at those girls are not viewing them as a beautiful woman of God! They're using them for personal pleasure. And I know we girls can objectify men as well. We look at some guys based on how cute they are. We flirt with them for fun, giving them false signals.

Guys, we need to respect each other! For crying out loud....

That's all for this week. I've got a crazy week ahead wish me luck and I'll see you next week (metaphorically speaking).

Dear Lord, yes, sometimes I know I fail in my duty as a man or a woman. I know sometimes I do not work beside my brothers and sisters and help them to become holier. Please help me to always show my friends and family and others the respect I wish for myself.

Awkward intermission

Yes ladies and gentlemen, we are still talking about unity. I'm sorry for not posting last week. I don't have a good excuse, so just accept my apology and know I'll try to be better here on out!

Well I'm reading this and I'm finding it hard to understand. I blame the NyQuil. So I'm just going to give a tip to all the men looking for ways to woo a woman. Song of Solomon/Songs. It has some of the most beautiful verses praising the woman ever. Let's face it: "Ah, you are beautiful, my beloved, ha, you are beautiful! Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats streaming down the mountains of Gilead..." (Songs 4: 1) while sounds kinda cheesy is MUCH more complementing than "you look better with the lights off".

Theology of the body is about how the human body reveals God and his plan for male and female, for the human race. Hopefully when I'm not drugged up I'll be better able to help unravel this mystery.

Bone of My Bone

Not going to lie, I didn't understand this at first. I was pretty confused. I blame the fact that it's late and I got home from work not too long ago.

Gotta love the subscript!

Anyway, this talk that JP2 gave was the first talk on "Original Unity", or the unity/oneness that Adam and Eve (the first man and woman) had before the fall. He focuses mostly on a few versus of Genesis 2 when God takes the rib from Adam, encloses it with flesh, and creates Eve.

Which sort of begs the question: why would God do this? He just finished creating a whole world out of nothing, so why would He need anything from Adam to create Eve? The answer, He doesn't.

There's a cute little story, that man used to be this amazing creature but the gods were jealous and split man in half. So to this day, man is searching for his other half. This is a similar concept here. Even before Adam and Eve consummated their marriage, they were one. They were of the same body, just like babies are one body that comes from their parents.

Not only were Adam and Eve "one", but they were the same. Adam had never seen another person before, and he's excited! When we read "this time she is flesh from my flesh...." we normally just read through it. But JP2 calls Adam joyful. He is excited, almost praising this new creature. Eve is the most amazing thing Adam has ever seen.

As a girl, I like this. Sometimes I wonder, do guys ever think of me in this way? But then I think about all the degrading things in society... from grievous things like pornography to basic things like music... and I'm just not sure. Sometimes I lose faith that there's still such holy love and respect out there. But then I have my guy friends who are like this, who do respect and love women. And really, it makes me happy.

Chivalry for the win!!!!!

Dear Lord, I would like to thank you for all the people of the opposite gender. Please help me in my search for my other half, and I would like to thank you if I am lucky enough to have found such a person! Also, please help me to encourage my friends to live out this love in respect seen so early in human history. It can be hard Lord, but give me the grace! Amen